Hard power vs. soft power

Do we use hard power or soft power when dealing with our precious child?

I always tell myself to use 100% soft power because this is the best way to get result and have a good relationship with the child. My wife has a different opinion. She believes that it's necessary to use hard power 20% of the time. The child will remember the discipline for the rest of his/her life time. It seems to her that hard power will impact the child's life in the long run and the soft power will impact the child's life in the short run. I don't necessarily agree or disagree with her opinion. I need to think about it. My goal is to provide the best value (health, positive mental altitude, relationship and abundant finance) for my child.

One thing I am certain is that using too much hard power will back fire. It will ruin the relationship between the parent and the child. The only thing that I am not certain is that not using hard power will have the drawback. It will also have impact in the child's life, too.

Well, wish me good luck

- David Shen