Complex human behavior

How do you know if a person talk to you with real feelings?
You might look for a clue and the clue is unusually quite obvious.
You just need to be like Sherlock Home: pay attention on details.

I never thought that I pay attention to detail in my entire life but it just happens. Yesterday, we have a meeting in our company. My manger is going to retire. I like him and I get a bit emotional about his leaving. In the meeting, his manager also says something about how valuable he is in providing value to the company. I look at her once, twice and three times and I suddenly realize that she doesn't feel anything about his retirement. This is just part of the business. Why do I say that? Well, I look at her shoes and her body language.

It seems strange to me that you can tell a person by the shoes he/she wear. I have never imagine that in my whole life but it just happens. I realize that if a person wearing tennis shoes, he/she most likely have more feeling than wearing the other kinds of shoes. My second line manger wore another kind of shoes and that give me immense clue that she just make a presentation to make it look good. She doesn't have any feeling for my manger at all who is going to retire. It seems strange to me that they work together for 7 years and she thought this is just a business. Anyone who works 7 years for me, I'll like this person a lot and will one way or the other show my appreciation.

Oh, one other clue is she put her fists on top of the other nonstop while she does the presentation. It seems weird to me that she does this while talking. I usually put my fist on top of each other when I am quite happy about an event. I sense that the 2nd line manger doesn't like my 1st line manger. It's strange to me that after 7 years of working together, they still don't like each other.

I guess that I don't understand the human nature as well as I do. I always thought that people are like me full of compassion. I don't dare to say it any more. It seems people are more complicated than I thought originally especially people work in the business world.

Well live and learn.